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9 Common Types of ‘Church Cowards’

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Many pastors and church leaders are miserable because of fewer than 5 percent of the church members.

Let me state if positively: Over 95 percent of church members are supportive and encouraging.

So pastors and other church leaders need to learn and deal with the reality of church cowards. They are few in number but, like a few bee stings from a hive of hundreds, they can be painful.

Before I suggest a path forward with church cowards, let me identify nine of the most common detractors.

1. The Business-Meeting Aggressor

This person is largely silent until there is a business meeting in the church. At that point, he or she begins to speak with either passive-aggressive language or outright venom. They take comfort and security by speaking in a crowd.

2. The Social Media Attacker

This coward hides behind the shield of a keyboard. They will not come to the church leader directly, but will gladly make their positions and criticism known digitally.

3. The “I love you, but …” Hypocrite

This church member prefaces criticisms and diatribes with a disingenuous comment of love and support for the church leader.

4. The Anonymous-Letter Writer

He or she who does not have the courage to identify him or herself does not deserve an audience.

5. The Absent-but-Critical Commanders

These church members have a lot of opinions about the church and the church’s leadership, most of it critical. But they are rarely involved in ministry or showing their support for the church in tangible ways.

6. The Financial-Withholding Hoard

You know these church members. When things do not go their way, they stop giving to the church. After all, it’s not God’s money, it’s theirs.

7. The Nothing-Good Gossiper

This member is happy to spread news about the church, its leaders and its members—as long as the news is negative, salacious or false.

8. The Delegating Demanders

Their pattern is consistent. If they have a problem or criticism, they go to someone else to communicate the problem. They then expect the receiver of the message to address the situation.

9. The “Silence Is Golden” Groupies

Unfortunately, in many churches, these members are often the exception to the 95 percent statement I made above. Too many members, far beyond the 5-percent problem members, remain silent when they see unfair criticisms, bullying and other toxic behaviors. Their silence is a complicit act of cowardice.

So, how do pastors deal with church cowards? First, you pray for them. As difficult as it may seem, you do pray for them. Second, you stay vigilant for these members so you can be aware of what is taking place. Third, you remember you are their pastor. Finally, you focus your emotional energies on the members who really want to make a positive difference for the kingdom.

Church cowards will always be with you. It’s up to you, in God’s strength, to determine how you will respond.

Read more from Thom Rainer »

Thom S. Rainer serves as president and CEO of LifeWay Christian Resources. Dr. Rainer can be found on Twitter (@ThomRainer) and at facebook.com/Thom.S.Rainer. This article was originally published at ThomRainer.com on Oct. 9, 2017.

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